"A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That's how awful the loss is."
-Jay Neugeboren, An Orphan's Tale
It's one of those heartbreaking stories you hear on the news often but never even think that it could happen to you. You're a great parent, you'd always be able to protect your child from harm, and you'd get to see her grow up and graduate from high school and begin life on her own. Let me tell you what~ all those things you took for granted can be taken away in a second and it's always that one second you will wish and wish, and beg and plead to have back again to redo for the rest of your life.
That awful unwanted second happened on Tuesday evening for my sister. Her darling little surprise baby, birthed in her 40's when she was least expecting another, her sweet Harmony, drowned in the family pool after making her way through the patio door that was accidentally left open. How can this have happened, they keep wondering? They'd always been so careful to protect this precocious and adventurous girl from going out to the pool on her own. That terrible second when they relaxed their vigil, fate decided to snatch her from them.
Harmony with my son, her cousin, Noah
Now they are facing large funerary costs as they have decided to bury little Harmony in their home state rather than their adopted state. My friends, readers, and supporters, I'm asking you only for prayers to let sweet Harmony know that we haven't forgotten her and for her family, her big sisters and big brother who are all grieving and hating themselves for giving death the opportunity to seek their baby out. I'm asking for even more prayers for my sister, who today had the strength to go out and shop for one last special outfit for her angel.
Harmony with her beloved big sisters
If you are able to, please visit and donate any amount towards her funerary costs at their Youcaring site. Any amount is appreciated and will go a long way in easing this family's financial burden as they grieve for their enormous loss. I am already so humbled by the response we've received from our friends and family. There are so many good, compassionate, generous people out there. Please keep them in your prayers during this dark time. Thank you.